Friendships are hard. Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert. Whether you’ve been friends for decades or just last week started becoming more involved in each other’s lives. It’s easy to take our friends for granted. It’s more than likely something you do every day. We don’t truly get to appreciate how much we love our dearest friends until something goes amiss.
Until we: experience loss, things aren’t going our way, they try to tell us something we don’t want to hear, our pride takes over, jealousy takes hold over our heart, we simply have gone too long without each other, we have nothing in common but we’re in too deep. If you can overcome these obstacles, then you’re the kind of friend we all crave in our life. If you’re the kind of person who continues to pursue our hearts in the dark times, in the times of disagreement, or the times that we truly just want to be alone… you’re one of a kind.
I can honestly say in the twelve years that I was in the school system; I only kept 4 of my friends. As approaching the end of my last semester in college, I’ve only kept 3 friends throughout this journey. If your circle is small, this is normal. If you feel like you put in more work than your ‘friends’ are worth; you are not alone. If you feel like, time and time again, your friends let you down…welcome to the club. In this season of building relationships and being able to establish who your friends are versus who is a simple acquaintance- we must persevere.
Putting false hope in something or someone when the Lord has other plans is pointless. Looking for friends to fill a hole of loneliness is a void that only God can fill. Asking friends to be there for us in the middle of the night when we feel broken or as if we cannot continue on the road we’re on. Relying on friends to make us feel whole is when we start to feel that we’re alone, that they aren’t a good friend, they don’t care about us enough to comfort us, or the best one- why can they not just provide me what I need to hear.
We are meant to be in community with one another so that the Church can thrive, yes. We are human and want others to care for us. These are natural desires; however, these are needs that we have to look to Jesus for. Friends who do pursue you and your needs like this are unique friends and hard to come by. Do not let them go.
It’s when we don’t get the responses or the reactions we desire that our friendships seem to dissipate. Our anger, pride, jealousy, and resent set in. We become bitter to those who were once near to us and wish they could see things from our perspective. In some cases, we can reconcile the offenses and continue on in our friendship. In other cases, we must set our pride aside and move our hearts to humility to salvage what is left of our relationship. Sometimes, we realize that this relationship isn’t going to be the same and we may as well part ways. All of these outcomes are normal, but personally, I strive to put my pride aside, reconcile, and make amends…but as my previously stated record goes to show-this rarely works for me.
Although it can be hard, if this task is too much to bear; we need to ask ourselves if this person is toxic to our life. I once was told that a ‘friend’ can bring detriment to us and our mental health. We shouldn’t take this lightly- I will write more about mental health and self-care in the future but I’ll leave it at that for now.
We have to consistently ask ourselves if these individuals are in it for the long run or if they’re on the friendship bandwagon for just a few months. Find your people, find your forever friends, don’t give up on them. If you think that maybe you don’t have forever friends, I’d invite you to pray for them. Ask for someone likeminded, caring, and rooted in God. I guarantee our Lord will not deprive you of this great satisfaction of having a true friend.
.When I hear these words I think of the dry heat of Arizona and the grasshoppers leaping. I recall memories of stealing oranges from the trees in our subdivision to make freshly squeezed orange juice in a tent one night with the neighborhood kids.
I miss the times that children would go outside without their phones and run around and make memories they will never forget. This leads me to my very humble opinion.... which you can disagree with and feel free to put me in my place.
The 90's kids are the best generation. We were the last ones to have our parents call out to us saying "be back by dark!" trusting us to come home and play in the street in our developmental years. These years are so incredibly important...and should not be filled with participation trophies.
Being a Marketing major right now has been so intriguing. There are so many aspects that go into generational behavior, consumption, communication, and ways of thinking. Guys, they don't know what to do with us. Researchers are so confuzzled by the 90's kids that they are giving us our own name. It's true that we do not belong with the Millennials and we certainly don't belong with Gen Z. Currently, we're all lumped together but that's changing- right now!
The 90's kids are desperate for success and reform- we crave understanding and achievement. We're willing to change the course for those younger than us after the reputation the Millennial's have left for young adults. We want to work for what we call our own.
There are two movements happening right now that I am so excited for- Girl Boss and Farmhouse. The way I personally interpret Girl Boss is in a non-feminist way. A way that this woman has nothing to prove to anyone but herself... no politics involved. These are the girls that work hard to get it done and don't rely on men to be the 'bread winners' but they're still nurturing and soft women. The Farmhouse movement is a need for things to be as they were when our great grandparents were living- simplistic, only buy what you can't make. Some call this a holistic lifestyle, and yes- it is greatly linked to essential oils and their magic powers that the Good Lord bestowed us with. We love this stuff!
So, we covered work ethic,behavior, social movements.... how about that Full House and Friends style? So many icons from our favorite TV shows continue to influence our style. We are single-handedly keeping Goodwill in business. Feel free to give a high five to someone next time you see them in high-waisted Lee Riders. If you give us your old clothes, we will give you our best effort to make the future a bright one; for many generations to come.
I believe that each person has their own interpretation of what Minimalism is. I'll share with you what I have found satisfaction in, without becoming extreme or even labeling myself "minimalist."
First, I found the definition of the word, minimum. This may seem silly; however, it is key to knowing how to implement this way of thinking, purchasing, and decluttering your life and space in a number of ways.
Min-i-mum (n.) the smallest or least amount of quantity possible, attainable, or required.
Min-i-mum (adj.) smallest or lowest.
With that being said, I've done my own research to acquire my own values within this lifestyle. You'll need to decide if you're going "all-in" or not before implementing.
So, here's what I did- I started condensing...smaller and smaller and smaller amounts of what I have. I started with my t-shirts; a challenge because I have an absurd amount of t-shirts. Then, dress and work clothing.. shoes. You get the picture. You'll want a bag or multiple bags (preferably not plastic) for donating what you're not keeping.
Condensing in the Kitchen is the real challenge. That tupperware cabinet is probably overflowing and stacked just right, isn't it? Well, not anymore! If you haven't used it in awhile you should probably donate it.
One of the most rewarding things I've done to minimize clutter in my life is through social media. As you go through your feed and realize you're just scrolling and scrolling through things you don't truly care about; you'll want to purge your mind of that as well. I promise, its okay to "unfollow," it's okay to report ads that you don't want to see anymore, and it is okay to use your media for the purpose you want...not to satisfy other's emotional and aesthetic needs.
You will be surprised at the number of things you really need to rid yourself of if you choose to implement this lifestyle. Plus, think of all of the individuals that truly need the things that you're never wearing or using! I will challenge you to purge your closet or dresser of t-shirts. That is where I started and I am so very thankful I did! Let the minimizing begin!!
The past few months have been a challenge. It's incredibly difficult to watch video after video of ocean life diminishing. There are whales that are beaching in order to die quicker; as a result of, being full of plastic products and lacking the ability to rid there systems of these various products. The sea turtles that have straws stuck through a nostril- you know the videos I'm referring to.
Anyway, this a topic I do feel very passionate about. Since the fourth grade when I was home-schooled and learning about marine biology; I've been so intrigued by the ocean and its life. The depth of the ocean and the breadth of creatures that thrive (or once did) amaze me. At one point I even wanted to be a Marine Biologist- this was not a short lived time...this was my goal. I was going to make a living off of my love for the ocean and all of its creatures-especially the dolphins.
It is breaking my heart to see how much plastic our nation deposits each and every day. National Park Services are issuing campaigns to go straw free. A small fact for you- America alone uses an AVERAGE of 500 million straws EVERY DAY. I will not limit the issue to straws alone, but this is an excellent way to start.
This hot topic is arising just as my dear friend and I have began to discuss our desires to go "zero waste." Do not be fooled- I am nowhere near zero waste. The zero waste mindset is the way to live though. It's a lifestyle of reducing the amount of waste you produce to almost zero. This mentality is saving me plastic in ways that I never would've thought. I'm not asking you to be radical and change your life. What I want is for you to consider these things and see what you can feasibly do to make a difference in our ocean a.k.a. 76% of the entire Earth.
How to help:
-When you order a drink: ask for it to be put in your own glass container, or let a waiter/whoever is servicing you that you do not need a straw. This may seem unsanitary, but if you've ever worked in a kitchen you know how the Hobart works- it kills everything like the highest powered dishwasher.
-Buying groceries: take your own bags that the store provides or a cardboard box to load. Both options carry much easier than those pesky plastic bags that cut off the circulation in your fingers.
-storing in the fridge: try to avoid buying more plastic containers and Ziplock baggies. It make look silly to store a chopped up sweet potato in an old pickle jar. But hey, save the ocean, people!!!
My last post wasn't even about anything, except an introduction to me, and it hit over 400 unique servers and 600 repeat visitors in the US. Please share and please encourage others to consider these three easy steps. Or even just one- do you really need that straw?
Hi All, this is my first post since the revamping of my blog. As you may notice, this is not just a normal blog... this is my combined personal and business website. This has been so exciting and I hope that you follow along with me in my life endeavors.
I want to talk about personal thoughts that are near to my heart. However, I'd also like to share about work experience and what I am learning as I finish out my undergrad and move into the workforce.
Give it a look around and check back in soon as I'll be sharing some fun things that have happened recently!!
Olivia Been. Early twenties. Aspiring event planner and lover of all things floral.